Alot of people are shy when it comes to their nudity, even in front of their boyfriends or even when they're by themselves. That's perfectly normal, not everybody wants to running along the beach butt naked and I understand that. I don't either. Nor do I want to see anybody doing that.
Anyways,
A lot of women harbor numerous insecurities about their bodies and it keeps them from being 100% comfortable with their bodies. Why??
Is it because the media tells us that we need to look a certain way in order to be defined as sexy? Is it because we're afraid that men are going to run away screaming after the clothes come off? (which they won't--unless there's a jungle of hair peeking out of your panties that may or may not be associated with a repugnant smell--but more about that later.)
Now don't get me wrong, everybody has their own level of "comfortableness"...some people feel comfortable running around the house nude or almost nude, where some people only get nude for a shower. And that's fine, but my blog is about being comfortable with yourself, and not being afraid to share that with a significant other.
First off, having insecurities is normal and many women have them (I think it's embedded in our genes) and I think that some men have them too.
We've all been there. The lights are dim (of course), your clothes start to slowly make their way to the floor and then you scramble to get underneath the covers so that he won't see that you're breasts aren't perfectly aligned. After the act is done, you opt to hide yourself behind a pillow or wrap yourself with the sheets mummy-style and awkwardly shuffle your way into the bathroom.
Having somebody see you naked for the first time is pretty nerve wrecking. (more so for you, than him) It's like you're opening up to him (no pun intended) and showing him a private side of you, that not everybody else gets to see (I hope). It's special and he better be lucky that he made it that far.
Don't let your insecurities get the best of you!
The key is to have confidence. Confidence with a capital C. Men love women who exude confidence and are comfortable in their own skin. Nothing is worse than having a woman who is always complaining about her body. How can he love you when you don't love yourself? So that's the first step. Men are visual creatures and they will get turned on the moment they see your....um...lovely "womanly parts". He's going to think you're sexy no matter what, but you have to be comfortable with yourself before you can frolick in your birthday suit.
Stop worrying about how your butt looks or how your stomach pokes out or if he's going to be satisfied with the size of your breasts--ALL DAT. (On a side note, don't tease him with the illusion of big breasts with your wonderbra...a little padding is okay, but to look like a C cup when you're really an A...not a good look.)
Come to terms with your cellulite and stretch marks...they're just a fact of life. As a cutie with a booty, I've had to deal with those issues myself and yeah, it kinda messed with my self-esteem a little bit, but I got over it. I'm happy to have the figure that I have. Plus I never got any complaints from my man.
And if your man has a problem with your flaws, then it's time to get a new man. Hell, he ain't perfect, but do we point out each and every one of his flaws?
So feel good about yourself and if you don't; then do something that will make you feel good about yourself. Go workout at the gym--but don't sweat your hair out. Go get your hair done--maybe after you go to the gym. Go shopping--only if you're not broke.
Anyways,
Confidence IS sexy. It comes from the inside out. (And you can be sexy at any size, shape, shade or color). When you have confidence, it shows.
Love the skin you're in.
